Question: Brother Khrystus, I've been going to my church for several years now and I have many talents but I am not being used by my pastor or the church. They only seem to use one set of people all the time. I feel I am being victimized because they know what I'm good at doing because I've done it before a few times over 10 years. I am getting discouraged because I really want to go all out for Christ but I am being kept back. What do you think I should do?
Answer: Thanks for writing to Dare 2 Be Different and asking. I'll be happy to help as I know just where you are coming from. I get this question ALOT, especially from my Youth Following. Some leaders and church boards continue to do a very poor job of searching out the talents of other members who sit in the benches and in their groups. This is really bad.
Thus, in many churches, we find that the same worship leader, the same keyboardist, the same drummer, the same person who reads the notices, the same person teaches the Sunday School class, does it for years and years and years. We tend to see that many places churches. Not just in your country, but in the Caribbean too.
I believe a GOOD LEADER constantly prepares the way, for the next generation, the next set of people coming up, the new converts. This is the best LEADER THERE IS. A good leader is never jealous or threatened by those coming up or he / she isn't a TRUE leader at all.
Churches MUST realize that each person that answers God's call to Salvation, he equips them with a variety of gifts so as to keep His work going. None of us is good at everything and we should be training and giving our members a chance to get the experience and go out and build.
1Pe 4:10 As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.
So, whether your gift is dancing, teaching, singing, playing, preaching, your pastor, elder or church board should find some way to let you and the other young people fit in.
This is why I know that many leave the church and go into the world because they get to do more there. PLEASE DON'T LET A CHURCH BODY FORCE YOU OUT!
As to what to do, I recommend that you first talk to your Pastor or Church Elder soonest about the concerns on your heart. Pay very careful attention to their responses and be sure to follow their guidance. Let me warn you though, Ask God for a spirit of discernment so as to find out whether they are really a MAN or WOMAN after God's own heart and cares for His business to go on, or if they are totally opposite and jealous and trying to keep back the mighty move that God is trying to do through you.
I had a similar experience too friend, I had to move on and just follow God's leading and call on my life. Had I not done that, I wouldn't have founded Dare 2 Be Different International (http://www.d2bdifferent.com/) and I wouldn't be writing here to help you in your country, from a little 68 square mile country called St. Kitts in the Caribbean, if I didn't follow God's Call First.
And Yes. . . .I am not about moving forward ALONE. I am about PUSHING my TEAM forward too. I ensure that they are not only busy in ministry, but I am guiding all of them to be business owners so they can properly provide for their families and themselves now and in the future, when or if they decide to get married. I can't do it all. I can't leave them behind also. I must prepare the way for one of them to take over or someone else to fill in where I leave off.
So I use my small team in mighty ways. I have ensured that Lemercius Wallace, my brother, who is Director of Music and Technology, has his own business too. http://www.djmerci.com/
Joy Codrington, who is Drama director also has her own business - http://www.tagdownskn.com/
Kerese Dias, our Dance and Finance Director has her own business - http://www.kayscorpskn.com/
This is what a good leader does, grows and looks after his team in every aspect. They work hard and feel blessed to be apart of The Dare 2 Be Different Team and reaching and impacting the world.
So pray hard and continue searching as to see if you really should be there or move on where you can be used.
Brother Khrystus, President, Preacher, Motivational Speaker, Youth Advocate
Dare 2 Be Different International
http://www.d2bdifferent.com/
Answer: Thanks for writing to Dare 2 Be Different and asking. I'll be happy to help as I know just where you are coming from. I get this question ALOT, especially from my Youth Following. Some leaders and church boards continue to do a very poor job of searching out the talents of other members who sit in the benches and in their groups. This is really bad.
Thus, in many churches, we find that the same worship leader, the same keyboardist, the same drummer, the same person who reads the notices, the same person teaches the Sunday School class, does it for years and years and years. We tend to see that many places churches. Not just in your country, but in the Caribbean too.
I believe a GOOD LEADER constantly prepares the way, for the next generation, the next set of people coming up, the new converts. This is the best LEADER THERE IS. A good leader is never jealous or threatened by those coming up or he / she isn't a TRUE leader at all.
Churches MUST realize that each person that answers God's call to Salvation, he equips them with a variety of gifts so as to keep His work going. None of us is good at everything and we should be training and giving our members a chance to get the experience and go out and build.
1Pe 4:10 As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.
So, whether your gift is dancing, teaching, singing, playing, preaching, your pastor, elder or church board should find some way to let you and the other young people fit in.
This is why I know that many leave the church and go into the world because they get to do more there. PLEASE DON'T LET A CHURCH BODY FORCE YOU OUT!
As to what to do, I recommend that you first talk to your Pastor or Church Elder soonest about the concerns on your heart. Pay very careful attention to their responses and be sure to follow their guidance. Let me warn you though, Ask God for a spirit of discernment so as to find out whether they are really a MAN or WOMAN after God's own heart and cares for His business to go on, or if they are totally opposite and jealous and trying to keep back the mighty move that God is trying to do through you.
I had a similar experience too friend, I had to move on and just follow God's leading and call on my life. Had I not done that, I wouldn't have founded Dare 2 Be Different International (http://www.d2bdifferent.com/) and I wouldn't be writing here to help you in your country, from a little 68 square mile country called St. Kitts in the Caribbean, if I didn't follow God's Call First.
And Yes. . . .I am not about moving forward ALONE. I am about PUSHING my TEAM forward too. I ensure that they are not only busy in ministry, but I am guiding all of them to be business owners so they can properly provide for their families and themselves now and in the future, when or if they decide to get married. I can't do it all. I can't leave them behind also. I must prepare the way for one of them to take over or someone else to fill in where I leave off.
So I use my small team in mighty ways. I have ensured that Lemercius Wallace, my brother, who is Director of Music and Technology, has his own business too. http://www.djmerci.com/
Joy Codrington, who is Drama director also has her own business - http://www.tagdownskn.com/
Kerese Dias, our Dance and Finance Director has her own business - http://www.kayscorpskn.com/
This is what a good leader does, grows and looks after his team in every aspect. They work hard and feel blessed to be apart of The Dare 2 Be Different Team and reaching and impacting the world.
So pray hard and continue searching as to see if you really should be there or move on where you can be used.
Brother Khrystus, President, Preacher, Motivational Speaker, Youth Advocate
Dare 2 Be Different International
http://www.d2bdifferent.com/
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